It goes without saying that I will do my first book tour in Mistissini. I am very excited. I am awaiting confirmation on the dates and then I will make an official event on Facebook! I am so excited. The book is a sensitive topic for sure but I know that now is the time to start talking about our history and to teach our young ones about OUR past. In schools, we learn about the white man's version of the past but from now, we tell our own tales, recount our own experiences, and it is finally time to listen to our people. Our elders are leaving this earth one by one and their stories will leave with them if left untold. Let us never forget what they fought so hard for. Let us never forget their hard work as they held on to our culture and language. As a storyteller, I vow to listen and to speak for them as they journey on to the spirit world. Our children will know the battles our elders and ancestors faced. I am proud of my ancestors. I wish that they could have had a hero to protect them, but as it turns out, they became our heroes.
Meegwetch
Nii nikii
Monday, January 13, 2020
Working on my New book
I recently found out about a distant cousin of mine who had been murdered near val d'or and I was very saddened by this information. All my years of studying and researching this topic I have never thought about looking into my own family. It saddens me to know that my cousin's killer was never caught, and this is often the case with Missing and murdered Indigenous women. Questions are left unanswered and the victims and their families are left without justice.
In my new book, I focus on a character's journey back to eeyou istchee. She is a young girl who is facing a hard time. Without giving away too many details It's overall topic focuses on Missing and Murdered Indigenous women and the fight to journey back to find freedom and peace by going back to our heritage, culture, and traditions. what I love most about this book is the mix of Cree and English. A reader can experience an educational journey into the cree language and learn words and terms in Cree. For the non-cree speaker, it is a mystery and for those who do speak cree, well I hope they find comfort in reading words from their own language in a short novel.
Meegwetch
Nii nikii
Thursday, November 28, 2019
Child appropriate language
Why isn't child-appropriate language a bigger deal?
The sad thing is that most of us have suffered some form of verbal abuse as children and although the form and extent may vary, the damage is the same. The impacts on our self-esteem, our confidence, or our self-images are always the ones to suffer the most impact. Parents often say hurtful things to children through forms of criticism. The feeling of not being "good enough" has hit us all once or twice, but there are those who feel it way more often than not. These events are traumatic for a child and the effects last well into adulthood. It is sad to see how many people become dependant on pleasing people. A lot of people will put their own happiness aside to please another. (side story) I remember a close friend of mine getting burnt out trying to please everyone around them. That person is very kind and caring obviously, but what is scary is the type of people they attracted. They got into so many bad situations because they were in the grasp of opportunists and manipulators. I remember a time they had given all of their income to their partner simply because the partner had told them to. When they separated, they had lost all of the money they had entrusted to their ex-lover. The sad fact is that my friend was a people pleaser and very trusting. The point is this, the constant disappointment with her parent (s) and constant criticism allowed my friend to become so dependent on making people happy. The lack of self-love kept my friend in destructive situations that in the end made her the loser.
Attachment theory and parenting styles are determinants in the development of character. This is why it is so important as parents and adults to be aware of the way we talk to children. Adult voices become the foundation of a child's conscience. It is important to know that parents who use positivity and encouragement raise children to have better self-esteem, confidence, and self-image in the long run.
What does this look like?
The Montessori approach nearly has it spot on
At the end of the day, the more you recognize the language you use with your children, the better you are at making the changes you need to ensure that your words help your children grow up happy and healthy.
The sad thing is that most of us have suffered some form of verbal abuse as children and although the form and extent may vary, the damage is the same. The impacts on our self-esteem, our confidence, or our self-images are always the ones to suffer the most impact. Parents often say hurtful things to children through forms of criticism. The feeling of not being "good enough" has hit us all once or twice, but there are those who feel it way more often than not. These events are traumatic for a child and the effects last well into adulthood. It is sad to see how many people become dependant on pleasing people. A lot of people will put their own happiness aside to please another. (side story) I remember a close friend of mine getting burnt out trying to please everyone around them. That person is very kind and caring obviously, but what is scary is the type of people they attracted. They got into so many bad situations because they were in the grasp of opportunists and manipulators. I remember a time they had given all of their income to their partner simply because the partner had told them to. When they separated, they had lost all of the money they had entrusted to their ex-lover. The sad fact is that my friend was a people pleaser and very trusting. The point is this, the constant disappointment with her parent (s) and constant criticism allowed my friend to become so dependent on making people happy. The lack of self-love kept my friend in destructive situations that in the end made her the loser.
Attachment theory and parenting styles are determinants in the development of character. This is why it is so important as parents and adults to be aware of the way we talk to children. Adult voices become the foundation of a child's conscience. It is important to know that parents who use positivity and encouragement raise children to have better self-esteem, confidence, and self-image in the long run.
What does this look like?
The Montessori approach nearly has it spot on
At the end of the day, the more you recognize the language you use with your children, the better you are at making the changes you need to ensure that your words help your children grow up happy and healthy.
References
Önder, A. aonder@marmara. edu. t., Dağal, A. B. asudebd@marmara. edu. t., & Bayındır, D. dilanbayindir@gmail. co. (2018). The Predictive Effect of Preschool Children’s Temperament Characteristics and Parenting Styles of Mothers on Ego Resiliency Level of Children. Education & Science / Egitim ve Bilim, 42(193), 79–90. https://doi.org/10.15390/EB.2018.7044
Pinquart, M. pinquart@staff. uni-marburg. d., & Gerke, D.-C. (2019). Associations of Parenting Styles with Self-Esteem in Children and Adolescents: A Meta-Analysis. Journal of Child & Family Studies, 28(8), 2017–2035. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10826-019-01417-5
New Book "The Truth About my Education" Illustrated by Cali Parrish
MY FIRST BOOK!!!!!
My New Book
I published my first book. The illustrator is Cali Parrish and I love the work that we did together.
The book is about an elder taking his grand-nephew fishing. During the fishing trip, the little boy complains about school and it leads the topic into the Indian residential school experience that the great uncle had. Although the story is a combination of experiences that children from the eeyou istchee faced, it is not one specific person's experience. My book's purpose is to get eenouj talking about the past with younger children. It is important for children to understand the past so that they can develop a deeper understanding of how things got to how they are today. Children who are raised in the communities know only what they see and not how it all began. Trauma is a destroyer that latches on to souls for generations. In order for our people to understand and then overcome the vicious cycle, they need to know where it all began.
The book is available on Amazon @ https://www.amazon.ca/truth-about-my-Education/dp/1709194383/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=nikki+baribeau&qid=1575006841&sr=8-1
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